Stephen Covey and his 7 Habits resonated with me the first time I read it. They became part of my life and I continue to strive to meet them every week. First Things First was also very motivating. The analogy of rocks in a jar is very powerful. Yet, there are times I wish I could grab Mr. Covey by the ear, drag him into my school so that he can see where his theory of time management breaks down.
The first week of school (and several weeks throughout the year) is one where I find placing important things first is very difficult. Parents and students rarely make appointments to register in the school. New students and old have many questions about their new courses, career plans, and issues they want to discuss. Staff members are trying to solve problems as a team which also requires time.
In the midst of all these demands I found myself taking a student to the local college to introduce him to instructors and counselors so that he can register for a pre-employment program. It was great to see him engage with all these people with excitement and keen interest. He was pleasant and well-mannered. He carefully considered their advice. This is coming from a young man who has exhibited extreme anger, distrust of adults in authority, self-neglect and substance abuse over the last three years. This was a Sacred time and I was filled with honor.
So why was I jittery with a strong desire to return to school, to leave him since he was doing so well? It’s the same feeling I get when I’m at home trying to relax. Shouldn’t I be busy doing something? There are things to do. So many things.
I forced myself to accept what I was doing and enjoy it. This young man was worth it. The time was not onerous and this was what part of my job was. I eventually forgave myself and enjoyed the rest of the visit.
I had another similar moment that same day in the afternoon. This was a meeting with a new student who came to the school with many difficulties and challenges. I met with her parents. We all collaborated to build a plan for this girl’s learning and long range goals in the school. This was another Sacred Student Time.
I forgot the price that comes with some of these times. I was reminded by the staff that meeting parents during the school day may not be the best use of my time. While I was in that meeting there were a number of students who went without help in their math courses. My team suggested, as I fully expect them to do, that I had made a mistake. While parent meetings are important, they can be scheduled differently.
I was so busy and proud of my involved in this sacredness I ignored other people who deserve their due attention. It was a lesson in humility. Everyone, especially my students, deserve sacred time where they get undivided attention from one of the adults in our school. The balance and wisdom comes with finding the appropriate time.
