During a presentation at a recent Outreach Conference I heard Cameron Buchanan speak.
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He placed a diagram on the screen that gave me a way to picture this section of the learning cycle. What seems to happen is that after the intial initiative has moved the person to want to do something, the person tries to find a solution. Many young people move into the Southeast and encounter frustration.
This frustration then goes one of two ways. The first one is Change. The person seeks a new challenge. They move away. They want to do something different. They are not focusing on the task no matter how important it was at one time.
The second direction is Agression. The young person gets angry. This aggression takes many forms and includes passive – aggressive behavior.
Parents, teachers, and/or mentors naturally try to put up Barriers when they see the young person in frustration. The person is not allowed to change simply on a whim. The young person must learn how to temper his emotions to avoid aggression. This can be done through awareness training. Teaching the young person to be aware of all emotions that are present, and not just the anger is very helpful. Some young people do nto move South because there is a barrier he has put in to avoid vulnerability and painful emotions. Finding that this barrier is where the value of pushing edges and encouraging feeling.
